February 24, 2005
some questions on friendship
Found this on in one of my LJ friends' posts, and I found it interesting...
Friendships are supposed to enhance your life and make you feel special, supported and loved. Do yours? If you've been having doubts about a bud, ask yourself the following:
1. Do you trust her/him?
2. Does your friend treat you well?
3. Do you feel you get a lot from the friendship?
4. Is your friend there for you when you're having a rough time?
5. Do you think she/he would stand up for you if others trashed you?
6. Does your friend respect you (your opinions, morals, concerns, interests, etc.) and your stuff (clothes, CDs, books, etc.)?
7. Do you have several interests/activities in common?
8. Are you able to disagree occasionally without feeling abused for dissed?
9. Do you look forward to seeing this person and feel like "something's missing" when you don't see her/him?
10. Do other people you care about have a high opinion of this person?
Hopefully, you immediately thought "yes" in response to at least eight of the questions. No? Then you might be in a negative relationship that's anything but true friendship. If the person is only around you peripherally, it's probably no biggie, but if she or he is heavily involved in your life, you may want to gather the strength to walk away. By freeing yourself from a rotten relationship, you'll be able to find the kind of friends you deserve.
Friendships are supposed to enhance your life and make you feel special, supported and loved. Do yours? If you've been having doubts about a bud, ask yourself the following:
1. Do you trust her/him?
2. Does your friend treat you well?
3. Do you feel you get a lot from the friendship?
4. Is your friend there for you when you're having a rough time?
5. Do you think she/he would stand up for you if others trashed you?
6. Does your friend respect you (your opinions, morals, concerns, interests, etc.) and your stuff (clothes, CDs, books, etc.)?
7. Do you have several interests/activities in common?
8. Are you able to disagree occasionally without feeling abused for dissed?
9. Do you look forward to seeing this person and feel like "something's missing" when you don't see her/him?
10. Do other people you care about have a high opinion of this person?
Hopefully, you immediately thought "yes" in response to at least eight of the questions. No? Then you might be in a negative relationship that's anything but true friendship. If the person is only around you peripherally, it's probably no biggie, but if she or he is heavily involved in your life, you may want to gather the strength to walk away. By freeing yourself from a rotten relationship, you'll be able to find the kind of friends you deserve.
Posted by tymeless on February 24, 2005 at 03:24 PM | 2 director's note(s)
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